Do you think our communication, and relationships, and romanticism has gone downhill since text messages came into the picture? It has definitely changed. Things people might talk about in person or have to say in person, they can get away with doing through a text. For some things this can be a bit impersonal, and inappropriate. But at the same time, it can kind of be exciting. Opening up a surprisingly good text is like opening up that surprise piece of mail when you were ten from your pen pal in Russia. I guess I'm just curious to see how more of our communication changes in the next few years.
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It's impossible to be everyones friend. Its impossible to be what you would like to be and strive to be to everyone. Its impossible to be to everyone what exactly each person needs. It's impossible. At somepoint you must give and take from certain relationships certain things. That doesn't mean you don't like certain people more or less, but for you to have some sort of energy at the end of the day, at somepoint, you have to be selfish. You have to be selfish with how you spend your time and where you spend your time. One cannot be all things to all people, that is why we are all here. We give certain things to certain people that others cannot. It's important to surround yourself with people who love you, and cheer for you, and challenge you, and make you question, and who will not be scared to question you, who can hug you, who will tell you about the enormous booger in your nose, who will laugh with you and sometimes at you when its deserved, who will make you calm, who you can be yourself around.
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I heard awhile back that people are pretty much who they are going to be, forever, by the time they reach 25. There is some give and take in that theory obviously, but its making the case that personalities, beliefs, values, are all pretty much set in stone by that age. People do change and priorities change, but for the most part I completely agree and see what it's saying. There are all these things I thought how I wanted my life to be like, or what I thought it would be like, or what I thought it would be cool to be like when I was younger. Ive come to the conclusion now that I will never be a vegetarian, that although Ive relaxed more than when I was in high school that I will probably always be a bit hyper, loud, and often times annoying, I will probably always be a bit controlling, that I like, if not feel like I need to take the lead in many things. Ive come to the conclusion I will never be that amazing athlete I always thought I could be, that I push myself only so far and that I often stop short, that discipline has always been a problem for me unless certain things are involved. That I will never be any good at the guitar, or the piano, and that I will probably never be fluent in any other language than English. That I am even horrible at English, that I will always be horrible at math. There are all these things I wish I was, or thought I would be, and so many, so many things I admire about so many people, but, I am just me. That I have always been me, as much as I thought I would eventually grow to have certain traits, they will always just be things that aren't a part of me. It's pointless to wish to be like this, or be like that, because I'm not going to be. I'm most certainly not changing. I can strive to be better. One specific thing that comes to mind is patience, and understanding. As open as I think I am, its hard for me to step back and accept where someone else is coming from. I can try and become fluent in Italian. I can learn to juggle. I could even learn the piano. I can learn skills. I can improve things. But I will never be someone else.